Do they just need space?
We just got back from a killer vacation as a family. We spent our days swimming and building sand castles and our evenings eating good food and strolling. Now that we’re back, I’ve noticed a big change in my kids and I’m not sure how to reset. Raffi is 4.5 and Ali turns 3 this week. They are very sweet kids but all of a sudden have started fighting a lot.
Raffi is also very grumpy/crabby and Ali has been whining a lot. Actually they both have been whining a lot. Raffi has also been talking back to us which is a completely new thing.
They were super spoiled on our vacation with tons of attention. We also said yes to a lot of things we normally wouldn’t. They watched plenty of TV and ate tons of candy. This week is a complete detox from both in many ways, but I didn’t expect this reaction.
For now I’m planning on keeping up with the detox of no TV (except Friday movie night!), no candy, and back to our basic family rules. I’m also trying to give each child enough attention. It has been challenging to do so since we got home as there was plenty of laundry and unpacking to do as well as catching up on work. I’m making a conscious effort though.
They also seem to need space from one another. All of a sudden they seem to get on one another’s nerves. This is a new thing. They seem to annoy each other on purpose and also just generally need space. I’m unsure how to provide that since they share a room and do most activities together. At least Ali has dance which is just her thing and Raffi gets quality time with Trig on dance mornings.
I’m hopeful someone has some advice for us as this is completely new territory for me. Or maybe you’ve been through it with your kids and can help us understand what is going on. While our kids can be rowdy at times, they are usually well-behaved and quite kind to one another. I can’t figure out how to stop this behavior in its tracks as most of my usual tricks aren’t working. It’s obvious that Raffi, especially, is going through something but I can’t figure out what or how to help.